Okay, Lasana a vivacious dating and relationships expert and television host, called me out on Twitter. And she’s totally right. I asked for a dating expert and then said all the things I refused to do; no lists, no online profile… y’all know how I get when I’m ranting. How do I expect to attract different men and change who I’m being if I’m already creating rules of all the things I refuse to do? As Lasana said, she understands my frustration, “but internal work must be done.” She spent over a year researching and conducting focus groups with men and women to gain a better understanding of the question “Is The Single, Modern Woman Having A Difficult Time Finding A Husband?” so I should probably listen to her.
She wrote a piece called “If Engaged, Am I Still Single?” for her blog at: http://www.loveandlifeblog.com/ Oh if only I’d known her during the “Shady years” though something tells me she was still in high school then.
Well, you know what? I’m ready for a new fresh and young perspective, and I’m loving Lasana. So, if you are reading Dating Guru (that’s what I’m going to call you, Lasana, because all of my cool chicks get nicknames on the blog (see cast of characters), I welcome your advice, as would all of the gals reading this.
And just for the record, there are at least two other Superfriends with a history of fixer-uppers in their past… so bring it on. What do we do?
If you want me to create a list, I’ll create it and post it here. I’m not scared!!! Well maybe a little..
If you want me to create an online profile… I’ll do it! Oh Lord, did I just put that in writing? Dating Guru, I’m so afraid of internet dating.. I tried it for 3 days, got over 1000 responses, mostly from guys who clearly didn’t read my profile and then got off, because it was like a second job. Sister has had nothing but nightmares with online dating. The one friend I knew who actually got married to someone he met on Match, just had his wife up and leave him when he didn’t even know anything was wrong.
Oh, and while you’re giving out advice, is there an antidote for getting over your First Love from 20 years ago? Other than the drastic measures taken in Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. Or do I just take spectacular care of myself so I can outlive his wife and be reunited with him at 95 (I picked an old age because I don’t want anything to happen to her until then. I think at 95 she’ll be happy with the life she had.. of course if science makes some kind of life extending break through, I want her to keep living, hopefully by then you’ll have helped me find a great man anyway).
Okay Dating Guru, have at me…